Tuesday, 30 August 2011

Confidently help your Teenager pass their Exams

Yes honestly!

I am about to deliver a brand new unique workshop for parents who want to practically and emotionally help their children to exam success.

This is a very difficult time for parents. There is a fine line between helping, empowering and interfereing in the year of revision, studying and taking the exams. If your children are going to take theirs in the next couple of years, then this is for you.

Many schools now teach children about the Visual, Auditory and Kinaesthetic way we learn stuff. You may have even heard your child say 'hey, I am a visual person' etc. But what the schools do not do is show them how to use all their senses to enhance the way they learn and revise, and nor do they show parents the major part that they can play in the success of the studying strategy.

in the 3 hour workshop, I will show you:

How to communicate to bring out the best in your teen's behaviour during this stressful time
How to practically help out subtlely without interfering
How to show them different ways of revising that are fun
How to coach your children to empower them and eliminate procrastination
Top tips and tools that will help the whole family

The return on your investment will be such, that, you will be glad you decided to put your money where your mouth is. I am so confident about your experience that I will give you your money back if you are not satisfied.

The workshop will be repeated in the evening for those that work, and places will be limited.

If you are interested then please contact me on nadia@naccoaching.co.uk to get yourself on a list and hear first about the dates, venue etc in near future.

I promise to impress you with my unique style and quality of content and there will also be an opportunity for your child to receive a follow up discounted session from me nearer to their exams.

Tuesday, 23 August 2011

Mastermind meeting APCTC 4/9

Next months meeting of the Suffolk Association of Professional Coaches, Trainers and Consultants sees us focusing on great copywriting.

We will be welcoming Elspeth Taylor, from Taylor Made, to show us how to write a great campaign by letter, email etc followed by coaching from me and then the q&a mastermind session.

Visitors are welcomed for free on their first visit so if you are a fellow service provider then come along, you have nothing to lose.

Full details and sign up on


Thursday, 18 August 2011

Calling Simon Clegg!

I have loved football since I started supporting Arsenal in 1971.

Moving to Ipswich as a teenager meant that the Gunners had competition for my heart from Ipswich Town. When I finally couldn't resist the easy trip to the local ground, so began my most important hobby as a 'tractor girl'.

I have been on Radio Suffolk this week to talk about how I think a lack of confidence in some players,is affecting the team,as a whole, resulting in that horrible loss against Southampton.

The physical side of training is not my bag, being a person that hates the gym and any activity that requires using equipment. I love to walk and that's about it.

My area of expertise lays in the bit between the ears, inside the mind of people who are highly skilled at their jobs but not using it to their full potential, for various reasons including lack of self belief and esteem.

I meant it when I boldly proclaimed on the radio that I would willingly use my coaching and NLP skills to help the team out for absolutely nothing!

What would I do then, some have asked.

Self belief for the footballers will be determined by various aspects of their game, mainly associated with their most recent successes, being well prepared, working hard, having a good support structure and an understanding of their own strategy for thinking.

I would start with outcome thinking for the team and individuals
Using NLP (neuro linguistic programming)to tap into their past successes,
Using NLP to enhance team work
Provide tools for staying calm and patient during setbacks
Eliminating self doubt
One to one confidence coaching where relevant

I know that some listeners would have been sceptical about my bold assumption that my reward would be promotion but I can only feel this confident because of the success of my work and clients testimonials.

What have they got to lose? An inspiring manager would bite my arm off for a chance to improve the mental capacity of their athletes.

So Simon Clegg Come on and take up this offer! I am waiting.......

Friday, 12 August 2011

How to Prioritise your Projects

This morning I hosted a breakfast coaching session for members of my mastermind group.
Over coffee and bacon buttes, we discussed our coaching businesses and how we prioritise all the different projects within them.
Many of my clients outside of this have problems with marketing because their message is not clear. This can be down to lack of niching but also can be attributed to the various processes that are used to deliver the service or product.

One of the members shared a way of looking at how to measure priorities and I really loved it.

It is represented by the following criteria:

Time it will take
Energy it will use
Resources it will need,including eqipment, IT, people etc
Cost of time and implementation
Passion for the project

The above criteria needs to determine:

Future Business
Personal growth

I don't know about you but I rarely write down the above factors when thinking about a new project, rather I am driven by the passion aspect and then cost. Time it will take is often not planned out as I get carried away with the whole 'I am going to love this'!

Coaches especially have so many business models to choose from and often try to embrace more than one. However it is important to align everything to your brand and niche and ensure each project can be sustained in terms of the criteria above.

Hope this is useful. Please feel free to share your ideas in the comments.

Tuesday, 2 August 2011

Values are King

This piece is a thank you to one of my own coaches Kevin Hall of APCTC.
He doesn't know this yet but our last chat gave me an incredible insight into one of my values when he said to me "so saving time means a lot to you". I immediately agreed as I have always known this but then when I reflected on this more, as only verbalising something can make you do, I realised that it has more of an influence on my daily life than I had firSt thought.
As the week went by I suddenly took notice of all the behaviours I had surrounding this great value of "not wasting time".
I have to admit that the dark side of this is impatience and it manifested itself in several ways.
The first instance was when I realised that saving time was more important than money and that I will use my car, not out of laziness, but so that I can fit in more social media or housework or anything that needs doing.
I noticed that my thought processes are always trying to come up with compromises, on behalf of everyone, without taking the time to share my thoughts with all involved so that the decision making is shared. The result may be the same but at least then I am not seen to be in my "impatient" mode.

The story does not end there - It came up again when I was in Norwich on Friday to be with the fabulous Topher Morrison, to hone and tone my speaking skills.
The first thing that struck me was how I do not tell a story in ENOUGH detail! Where others give you every small part of the picture to try and show you the story into your minds, I was giving little more than the headlines.
This is because I didn't want to waste THEIR time! I had a belief that the audience would rather I just got to the point. Topher showed me how I could make my story so much more compelling and it was a real aha moment.
Though so simple this has changed my whole way of thinking and it was the 2 sessions together that made me see the light.
I pride myself in my good time management but sometimes the value of taking your time to express yourself, or to go for a walk to the shops instead of taking the car, or to communicate what you need out loud, can be much more beneficial than "saving time".
However much we understand ourselves, there is always more to know.
So thanks Kevin and thanks Topher!

Monday, 1 August 2011

How do you treat others?

One of the quotes that I most object to is " treat others how you would like to be treated" or even " treat others how they would like to be treated".
The reasons I object to this are actually really simple. As a confidence coach I believe you need to understand where others are coming from, before you can communicate fully and cleanly with them. As a coach I will always do this with my clients to enable them to explore fully what the issues are, BUT as a person going about my daily life, I will do this to a point, and then I will expect the respect to be reciprocated.
My motto after that is often 'treat others how they treat you"
My values and moral coding are of a high standard. I have worked on them long and hard over the years, especially during my NLP tranining, and some things come naturally to me, like being friendly, confident, caring and inquisitive. My values create my behaviour and if someone does not like what they see or if they feel uncomfortable with such an honest and outgoing person, then it is for them to go away and try to understand my position and to remain open minded. I do not believe that it is only up to one person to do the work. Boundaries need to be in place for all parties, for us to love and respect one another. However I have often found that by making the effort, people do try to meet others half way and relationships can be improved immensely by being persistent in any positive endeavours.
Being authentic is one of my most important values. Having integrity and honesty is how I can sleep at night.
I am me and proud of it too.
There is also the scenario where, despite all best efforts, the other person does not return the favour. My clients often question if one is a mug to continue to "treat people how we would like to be treated" when it is blatantly not appreciated?
Personally, I have never pretended to be a saint and nor would I want anyone to be a doormat. Part of being confident is to stand up for our values and to put boundaries in place.
The original quote is much more complex than first sight and perhaps it does not mean it in the way I think. Then if not it is patronising, for I believe nearly everyone tries to belong and be to be liked. Even those that appear arrogant are usually lacking in self belief.
People generally are respectful and do not need the obvious to be stated.
What do you think?